So I was quite interested and bemused to read a story with the headline: “ How Sex Is Killing The Live Music Scene Thanks To Tinder And Grindr.” The story suggested that we forget breath-testing, lockouts, or downloading – Sex is killing live music, or at least the search for it is, on Tinder and Grindr.
That said, don't lose hope--there's no reason why you shouldn't be in that tiny percentage of people who do exchange numbers and possibly meet up for some hot Tinder sex.
You may have heard your single friends complaining that dating apps like Bumble and Tinder are a waste of time and that they’ve been using them for months but haven’t connected with anyone decent.
Regret impedes the ability to recover from stressful life events by extending their emotional reach for months, years, or lifetimes.” How many times have you sat there thinking, if a certain something had happened then things would have turned much differently.
We imagine all the different scenarios, play the blame game, throw a pity party or two, until we get stuck in our pit of despair. While mourning a failed relationship is an important part of healing, we oftentimes waste countless hours wallowing in self-pity and “what ifs” when we could be doing something more healthy like slowly letting it go.
Not that I am passing some kind of moral judgment here. And, it is not because they’re a couple of smartphone applications, used primarily by people to have casual sex. It’s because they live in a world where people and sex are disposable commodities.
It was such a perfectly, reasonable, rational not to mention respectful way to meet a potential partner. I call them the devil’s children of Internet dating. I just have a lot of personal issues with Tinder and Grindr.
It seems that a lot of relationships ended recently or people were thinking back to failed relationships past because both in person and online I’ve gotten a lot of questions asking if their failed relationships were a waste of time. After a relationship has ended, we typically think back with sadness and regret.
That made me recall my own situation after my divorce and countless failed dating experiences. This is what leads us to believe that a failed relationship is a waste of time.
Every encounter we have with someone, especially when we’re in a relationship, is an opportunity to learn and grow.