It is a choice to not emotionally give away your heart, piece by piece, to many others through casual dating relationships and instead to give your whole heart to your life partner.
I explained what courtship was and quoted Joshua Harris, chapter and verse. “I don’t think courtship is a smart idea,” my grandfather said.
“How can you tell who you want to marry if you aren’t going out on dates? I ignored their advice on relationships, preferring to listen to the young people around me who were passionate advocates of courtship.
A man will court a particular woman because he believes it is possible that he could marry her, and the courtship is the process of discerning whether that belief is correct.
To the extent that the Bible addresses premarital relationships at all, it uses the language of men marrying and women being given in marriage. Selfishness is not what drives a Biblical marriage, and therefore should not be what drives a Biblical courtship.
For those of you who are wondering, no pastor can speak for God with respect to someone else's timing or method of selecting the mate God has chosen for them.
But, taking the cult stuff out, what about courtship?The idea of dating multiple people until you find the one you want to marry is often considered sinful or, at least, undesirable.Needless to say, I've only heard parents talking like this, while their teenage children are happily playing the field.Over the past decade, or so, It's become popular in modern churches to use the concept of courtship for young Christians to select a spouse.Many have touted this as the true Biblical ideal for young men and women.It is the desire of the administration at Harvest Community School that high school families are in agreement and like-minded when it comes to the students and their desire to remain pure until marriage.