” but I think it’s better to just text to set up a first date. I think it’s much better to just text asking a girl out right away. It’s like making out in cars or eating a lot of carbs — it’s sweet and brings back memories of something we used to love doing. Almost a hundred percent of advice you give over gchat/text/brunch will never actually be listened to.Plus, the pre-date phone call is tricky because aside from our parents, we are all so out of practice with actually talking on the phone to other human beings, much less trying to impress them with our easy going nature and love of John Candy’s early works (anyone else? Unfortunately, the guys of our generation would rather do anything other than talk on the phone — but still, on the whole, these are amazing times we live in. But we’ll all keep giving it, and trying to figure it all out, cause you know. Guys of New York: You’re killing us with all the tote bags this summer.
This will make things easier and more fun for both of you.
You will already be more comfortable with each other when you meeting in person because… On the other hand, if the first phone conversation doesn’t go very well, and if you have nothing to talk about, you will likely not enjoy each other’s company in person either, and therefore you are probably better off not wasting each other’s time and you should not meet at all.
But a recent study by the University of South Florida suggests that – while a short period of messaging is fine – we actually shouldn’t wait too long to arrange a meeting.
Published in the Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication, it explains that there’s a ‘tipping point’ when it comes to online dating.
Of course, you shouldn’t hang on the phone for two hours so that you get sick of each other before you even met, but getting an idea about each other’s personality through a slightly longer than usual conversation before meeting for the first time is indeed a very good idea.
So, treat your very first phone conversation with a woman as a first date – it’s an interaction where you learn a little more about each other and you find out if there is a mutual interest and mutual desire to actually get to know each other better after that conversation.
After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads. I recently tried on-line dating in hopes of genuinely meeting someone.
However, every contact wants me to call him by the 2nd message - and doesn't appear to have even read my profile.
Studies have suggested that anything between 35 and 50 per cent of all couples in the UK, now meet via the web.