However, it looks like you have given the relationship enough time to blossom in the passion department.
At the end of the first date I decided to have a second date just because he was the sweetest guy and really fun… He has everything I was looking for in a guy but physically he’s just not my type.
Now we have been dating for a few months and I still don’t feel attracted to him. Sometimes I think that I need to be thankful for the qualities he has instead for what he doesn’t have. Do you think that I should continue dating and see what happens? Dear C, You have a very common question, and a common dilemma.
The first kiss was so amazing you were overcome with starry-eyed dreaminess and there were imaginary fireworks going off around you, it’s just a shame you had nothing to talk about over dinner.
Or was it the other way around; loads in common but the butterflies and physical attraction just wasn’t there?
I had never felt so drawn to someone before, and we shared close, deep (non-physical) times together.
When he dumped me, I felt my heart would never mend, and three years later, I still struggle with that relationship loss.
But what people sometimes forget to talk about is the big C word: .
The first things that comes to mind when thinking about chemistry is that feeling of butterflies you get when you see that person, and how your heart skips a beat when they grab your hand.
I sense that what you are asking is which one is more important? Having someone you enjoy spending time with, can talk openly with, is accessible and available to you, and seems to share the same feelings are really the basics for starting a romantic relationship. As much as it’s enjoyable to be with someone who “matches the resume” you are looking for, in the long run the lack of passion is likely to become a problem.