(Each time we did this, of course, it further reinforced these principles for our daughters and for us.) “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). Sex was created by the holy God of heaven, where purity reigns.
If a Christ-centered, positive relationship develops, then you might move to cautious displays of affection such as hand-holding.
But be alert to the difference between appropriate affection and intimacy. Plan the entire evening in advance, with no big gaps.
This is by far the weakest excuse for a cop-out I’ve ever heard, and yet it somehow manages to repeatedly eek its way out of the mouths of otherwise-brilliant pastors, authors, bloggers, and never-at-all-brilliant Twitter philosophers. Last time I checked, I don’t get paralyzed when a hot girl says “Hi” to me, and I am literally the ONLY one in control of actions at all times. Why don’t all the men just grow up, and then we can start having some teaching for adults. If most of the Christian guys you’re interested in had it fully together, we probably wouldn’t be having this conversation. It simply means they are lacking in awareness, confidence, or most commonly, know-what-they-want-edness. I’m not saying you should or shouldn’t pursue a guy. If dating hinders your relationship with God, why would you ever date… If you’re focusing on Jesus in this season, who are you focusing on during all the other seasons?
I don’t recall signing over my personal responsibility to every woman on the planet with nicely toned legs and a propensity for living. I’m just saying that if you know what you want, why wait until he figures it out? If you get married at age 25, you’ll spend at least two thirds of your life in a relationship. One of the biggest problems in Christian dating culture is the idea that young adults should limit their coed relationships to marriage fast-track candidates.
It seems that dating might be universally confusing. What makes Christian dating so hopelessly complicated is the Christians themselves.
We bring our love for out-of-context scripture and applied-only-when-convenient principles into the mix, making for an entirely unique brand of utter ridiculousness. You don’t have to think, because we’re here to do it for you.Head lice are very common among Christian men, especially Pentecostals.Although it is a normal and natural blessing from God to have head lice, you should certainly wash your hair before your date if only for the reason to avoid the temptation of putting your arm around the young lady while lifting to scratch your head.You must stay safely back from the line where either one is propelled toward sexual intimacy. Focus on talk, not touch; conversation, not contact. Gaps always get filled, often with temptations to sexual impurity. Setups include such things as being alone on a couch or in a car late at night or in a bedroom.Treat your date as a subject to listen to and understand and appreciate, not an object to experiment with, conquer or satisfy your desires. Avoid fast moving relationships and instant intimacy. A car moving too fast is likely to swerve out of control when it hits a slick spot. Know what you’re doing and either stick with the plan or go somewhere safe, where you’re in the sight of others (particularly others who respect the need for purity). Determine to stay away from the setup, rather than putting yourself in the setup and having to call on your convictions when your resistance is at its lowest, and you’re most likely to give in. Be accountable to someone about your physical relationship.If you have found such a creature and she is not bobbed of hair, nor wont for excess in make-up or lewd attire, then you must prepare yourself for a first date.